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WHAT I WISH I KNEW BEFORE STARTING MINIMALISM

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I just now looked up when the last time we made a minimalism video was, and it was nine months ago. So it’s about time we share another one. I’ve kind of been reflecting lately about why I started minimalism, and what it means to me, and so in today’s video I really want to share certain things that I’ve learned along the way, and things that I wish I had known before I got started. So let’s dive in. Getting rid of things can be a really complex mix of feelings and emotions, and it can have to do with fears of letting go of the past or maybe you’re worried about being wasteful, for some people it might mean kind of facing, really uncomfortable mental and emotional clutter, but there’s one thing that I’ve learned and something I wish I knew before I got started. It’s a lot easier to let go of things when you have a strong reason to do it. See, I adopted minimalism after having backpacked for six months and having realized that I was kind of at my happiest when I had only a small backpack full of things. The locals I would meet. They also looked like they had so few things, but they were also so fulfilled and joyful with their lives, and having seen that, I realized that the reason I wanted to try minimalism. It was because I didn’t want to rely on possessions to make me happy, but instead on experiences and time spent with people. I kind of wish that somebody had told me that willpower alone wouldn’t be enough to create or maintain a minimalist lifestyle, but that I would need a strong reason, a strong why power, and I would all come together a lot more easily. I wish that somebody had told me that what works for somebody else might not necessarily work for me. In the beginning I was really eager to learn about minimalism, so I was watching documentaries, reading books, watching YouTube videos, and because I was so motivated I kind of wanted to do everything that everyone was saying. But you see no minimalist gurus or documentary teams are gonna show up at your house to see if you’re doing everything correctly or if you’re doing it all at once. We’re not impressing anybody with our decision to try out minimalism. It’s purely a decision we make for ourselves and the wonderful thing about minimalism is there is no right or wrong way to do it. Some people prefer to downsize their possessions in just one or two days, other people might need a couple of weeks or months to do it, and the beautiful thing is that there are no deadlines. And another thing that I’ve definitely learned is that you don’t need your partner or your family members to adopt a minimalist lifestyle for you to do it. It’s just between you and your own things, and how those things make you feel. When I first tried to minimize and declutter, I was using the same old techniques I had been using for years and I kind of wish somebody had told me if those techniques weren’t working for you before, why do you suddenly think they’re gonna start working for you now. Luckily, I had been hearing everywhere and from everybody about a book called The Life-changing Magic of Tidying up by Marie Kondo. By now, you guys know, that I love listening to audiobooks and I’ve just incorporated it into my daily routine. So I added that book to my list, and let me tell you the glowing reviews on the book do not disappoint. It’s more than just a guidebook of practical advice on how to clean and get rid of things. It’s also about learning more about ourselves through our attachment to things. One strategy that Marie shares that I use all the time when I’m decluttering is to physically hold an item in your hands, and ask yourself does this item spark joy? Does it make me feel good about myself and my life? If the answer is no, you actually don’t want to just throw it away. Marie recommends thanking the item for having once served you before you discard it. If it does spark joy, I don’t just put it back anywhere. I find it a home: a place where it can happily live. She speaks about objects as if they’re alive and that’s kind of just shifted my perception about the things that I own and the things that I’m getting rid of, and she just shares a lot of really golden tips that I definitely recommend for anybody who is new to the minimalist lifestyle or he’s just looking for a new way to approach it. As usual audible has been generous enough to partner with us on this video so we can offer you this book or any other book that you like in addition to a 30-day free membership by visiting audible.com forward slash Pick up Limes or you can click that link in the description box below. I feel like everybody who’s adopted minimalism at one point or another has felt a little bit guilty for having too much stuff. Maybe, especially in the realm of our work or our hobbies. Like I know that I was personally facing that kind of internal struggle when I was unpacking all of the food photography props at the new studio, because I was thinking to myself, you know, no minimalist would have this many plates, and bowls, and cups, and cutlery. It just seems excessive, but you see here’s the thing I use all of those props I use them for the work I do I want to create recipe videos and blog posts that are appealing and each a little bit different than having a selection to choose from, that truly inspires my creativity and it sparks happiness in the work that I do. So I wish someone had told me that minimalism doesn’t have to be an all-or-nothing approach. That in some areas, I would live with less and in other areas, I would just consciously live with a little bit more, and I say consciously because even in those areas where I have a little bit more, I try to follow a minimalist mindset even still. Purchasing reused plates and cups if I can or donating old ones that I no longer enjoy or need or use. Remember that minimalism can be used as a guideline rather than a strict set of rules. I wish somebody had told me that being a minimalist does not mean having to be frugal, and while it’s true that I tried to purchase fewer things now than I did before, and that I’m trying to purchase things from secondhand stores whenever I can, the truth of the matter is that I’m actually noticing I spend a lot more on each particular item that I purchase now than I did before. Like looking back to what I was doing before I would go and I would buy five or ten dollar sweaters, because they were a good deal. But you know how it goes, you wash those sweaters once or twice and they start to fade, and after a month or two you end up tossing them. So now I don’t mind spending a bit more on higher-quality clothes or accessory items or electronic equipment, because in my mind if it lasts longer, it’s paying itself off in the long term. It creates less waste and it brings fewer new things into the home I wish that somebody had told me that it’s totally okay to treat myself to higher quality products while still fully recognizing that the best things in life are the ones that are free, things like love and relationships, health, and personal growth. An important aspect of minimalism that I’ve come to really appreciate, is that it kind of forces us to get brutally honest with ourselves. Like sometimes we hang on to certain things, because we think it’s gonna motivate us to take action. Like a skinny pair of jeans might motivate us to exercise or that canvas and paint collecting dust might motivate us to get creative. But at what point do those things kind of become tokens of guilt or inadequacy? And how long do we have to keep them for before we realize that it might be negatively impacting our lives. Like are we keeping those things because it’s nourishing our soul in some way and does it spark joy? Or do we genuinely plan to use it? Because if that’s the case, then we’ll absolutely keep it. But if it’s an item that’s just filled with empty promises, then it might be time to let that thing go. I feel like through everything I’ve learned and experienced, minimalism has meant living a simpler life and placing value on ourselves and other people and experiences, more than material things. Then I think one of the things I love about it most is the mindset But what about you? What do you wish that you had known before you started down this journey? or were any of the tips that we shared today did you find those helpful? Let me know by sharing in the comments below, and if you enjoyed this video it always means a lot if you give it a thumbs up Thanks a lot for watching, Pick up Limes signing off. We’ll see in the next video.

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100 thoughts on “WHAT I WISH I KNEW BEFORE STARTING MINIMALISM”

  1. Pick Up Limes says:

    Oooh, and I wish someone had told me it would be a decision I would never regret! 😛 Anyone else agree?

  2. Luna Lovos says:

    I wish I knew that no matter how much you learn to let go, it's still going to be difficult at times. I'm still trying to pair down my belongings because I value and cherish a simple yet enriched lifestyle full of love and joy that are often diminished by materialism. I wish someone had told me that, especially if you choose to embrace the minimalist life, it's OK to invest in what's important to you.

  3. LaurensDesigns says:

    Love the part about empty promises…most of my things are projects or supplies for a later day, and sometimes i use them, and want to have them on hand for when i do but also feel guilty for not doing them as much… :/

  4. Cathy Tortorella says:

    Bla Bla Bla

  5. Amanda Thomas says:

    I love that I've found you when I needed you, I've practised minimalism for over a year now, since we downsized, and love the freedom it gives us to travel more and live in the moment, but I've been a little 'stuck' lately so you have given me the empowerment I need ….Nameste 🙏🏼🦋

  6. Yesenia Loera says:

    This is the third time I watch this video but I feels it is such a good reminder for my minimalisim Journey 😊

  7. Xaforn says:

    Because I was struggling with my health as a teenager and well into my 20’s I just kept everything, it was too much work to go through everything. When my ex was deployed the last time I packed my clothes and my son’s clothes and personal items such as books, toys, a few movies and stayed with my parents. After he left us that was all we owned, so we went minimalist basically overnight. I finally got rid of my middle/high school wardrobe completely about 3 years ago and started loving items made my independent artists, I just couldn’t afford them plus it cause great anxiety just to spend a few $. Fast forward to now, I will be cleaning out my clothing rack again, I’ve sold a few scarves, gone through books and am replacing undergarments and loungewear. I love it and so does my son.

  8. Wendy Torkelson says:

    Regarding things we hang on to that we think will motivate us, you said, "At what point do those things become tokens of guilt or inadequacy?" That single sentence was so powerful and exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!

  9. Chris-Marie Rasi says:

    Emptying a dead relative’s home is a good opportunity to learn to get rid of one’s own stuff. You see things from a different perspective.

  10. karissia couchman says:

    I really liked this video. Thank you for sharing your experience.

  11. Sandra Levi says:

    Minimalism isn’t that socialism????

  12. Akanksha Barnwal says:

    your face is so glowing and you have such nice hair

  13. Katarina Tibai says:

    A tourist is a strenger to the locals and have a different cultural backround and different languige – the locals will not tell him oll.
    You will see a courtness smile a servil smile – even people smile when they are ashamed because they are poor and from the same reason they not complain.
    I greww up in east Europe and Swiss – in a poor familly – we where not jeleuse of other people – we also do not looking ceeping with the wtf – we also smiling pretend that we fine and ceep smiling – also because of culture.
    In Slowaki its no speach on the topic of poverty and in Swiss you dont have to be poor – ewerybody is forsed to hide it.
    So haw can a tourist assume the happyness of a tribe only from a short speak with the locals and because he or she see them smiling.
    Differentiate.
    We are all humans – there's no countrys full of supermens.

  14. Katarina Tibai says:

    Its also more akcept to be poor in a poor cauntry – the pressure on the people to be welthy is maby not so strong snd they help each other because they have to.
    Western people can also have a togetherness and help each other – in east Europe and poor places in Germany it is like that – bat try to be poor in a rich country – you will be treated as the big asshole – like you where a scum.
    So I have me daubt when a welthy tourist go in poor cauntries and declears on you tube that he know the locals are like that and we – (wtf – she mean with we in the western world) – we are not all the same.

  15. Ann Zak says:

    thank you so much for this video, something in it really hit me about not holding on to things for the sake of it, and i got rid of 3 items that were really of no use to me and just holding me back thank you thank you thank you

  16. thiadova says:

    Do you have a video on closets?

  17. Alison Richardson says:

    Love your video. Thanks for sharing

  18. Nad Ya says:

    Wew, here i come for minimalism tips and watch you coming to indonesia before. I want to say hello from 🇮🇩🇮🇩

  19. Kash 75 says:

    Skinny jeans. Just like bell bottoms. They are here for a season. Pick something that’s timeless and will never go out of style. Create your own style that you don’t feel the pressure of trying to keep up with 2 year fads.

  20. gia stone says:

    Me: I want to be a minimalist!
    Marie Kondo: Only keep 5 books.
    Me: *Record scratch*

  21. Monique Lehnhardt says:

    Helping my parents move made me realize how much stuff I had. It became a challenge to keep stripping down until I got to what I truly need. Also, I chose aesthetic minimalism where you have only truly beautiful things. When you look around you everything is beautiful. Not the dull, drab, colorless version of minimalism you often see.

  22. Valeria Del Rio-Rodriguez says:

    I really love the style of ur house. Full of plants and wood bringing the outdoors in ❤❤❤

  23. Fitnezzo says:

    Marry me❤

  24. Paula's Life says:

    Looks like you live in a huge place, the kitchen is big !!

  25. Hajer Bassem says:

    Sunset @1:15 Woah.

  26. Mary Speidel says:

    I think things go out in layers.donation works for me.

  27. Lilly Smith says:

    Quality over quantity. Thanks for sharing (;

  28. Druid Riley says:

    Dirt poor people in 3rd world countries are happy with what they have because they have no choice. They have no real chance of improving their lot, so they choose to be happy with what they have. It isn't because they WANT a single bedsheet they have to wash once a week, or a single set of clothing they have to wash every three days because they have few other pieces of clothing. What a strange thing to take as inspiration.

  29. Janine Moore says:

    Super inspiring. And yes, quality over quantity, all day long.

  30. PancakesPusheen ! says:

    your house is actually huge! i can see that the kitchen is pretty big..

  31. Guru Sandirasegaram says:

    Wardrobe malfunction

  32. ragged Jeannes says:

    Throw it away – Lois Griffin

  33. Jamie Lu says:

    Minimalism can become all consuming until u have nothing left. The best tip is to keep ur life comfy more so than the aesthetically pleasing aspect of it.

  34. Wijdan says:

    Indonesia.. 🙂

  35. Mystic Earth says:

    thank you i needed that

  36. Blackgirl_ Lerato says:

    I honestly want to move from hoarding to minimalism, I've been too attached to physical possessions and stopped experiencing life as a whole.

  37. cat speed says:

    What about cheap and best products?

  38. Ravinder Kaur says:

    I loved the way you mention these post minimalism issues which no one discussed before 🙌

  39. Priyanka Priyadarshani says:

    Sadia please do more vedios on minimalism!

  40. For Kids By Kids says:

    Some people just make such gosh darn good videos

  41. J. Taires says:

    wonderful videos you produce ~ thank you for not dilly-dallying, straight to the point so appreciated ~ best wishes to you, i forwarded to a friend also clearing ~ thank you!

  42. Noryani Abdul Ghani says:

    Tqverymuch

  43. Love Grace says:

    very true about buying quality items that last longer, i also like to donate things that might be useful to other people

  44. ZappaChick says:

    I'm noticing that minimalists talk alot.

  45. unicorn diva says:

    Come to India, everyone lives on minimalism by default

  46. Maria Makinen says:

    Life is not to be cast away.

  47. Zachary Brown says:

    Why is it I only see rich people influencing minimalism. I mean it's a good idea but it looks like another trend that rich people are looking to reduce your excessive lifestyles.

  48. sode sumanth says:

    You're an artist 😍

  49. gloriakmm says:

    Er… no. The best things in life art not free. 5:50 love, health and personal growth all require time and energy to cultivate and maintain. Just sayin'….

  50. hc says:

    I totally agree with everything you said. Quality is not a defective marker in a minimalist lifestyle

  51. J. Reyna says:

    Can you share the recipe of the salad you made looked delicious and healthy 😃👍🏻

  52. Rachha Agarwal says:

    I am really glad that u chose this topic .The World really needs people like u who believe in minimalism. The more we folloe minimalism, the less we dispose things going forward and will help mother earth heal 🙂

  53. Leda Iizuka says:

    I live in Brazil and I just realized that sometimes I don`t buy high quality and expensive stuff because I`m sure someone is gonna steal it.

  54. Nan J says:

    That salad looks great!

  55. Shupti Fernando says:

    My son and hubby keeps cluttering house constantly with their love of shopping ! I’m on a life mission to keep them away from shops!

  56. Theresa Capell says:

    Do you have the minimalist checklist to download?

  57. Mimi Shella says:

    Idea: For those who believe in God, try thanking Him instead of an inanimate object. Every gift comes from Him. A grateful heart is a joyful heart.

  58. Eva J says:

    Thank you for that. I struggle to let go of stuff from old hobbies that I dont miss anymore. The good memories seem to foster guilt and a wish to be who I was, as if who I am is not good enough without that. It's also hard because of loved ones attachment to who I was then. I struggle to make peace with letting it go. Even though, secretly I want to.

  59. jmtoronto5 says:

    Where can I get that minimalist tips sheet/guide you are checking off? I would love some guidance.

  60. Sara Baarman says:

    Wow, you are amazing 😍

  61. Mart T. says:

    OMG you speak so fast 😂 I had to watch the video two times to record everything. Still love it 😍

  62. Raquel Freeman says:

    I truly want to adopt this lifestyle to a certain degree!

  63. Mona Moore says:

    I was minimalist sence I was kids but after my 21 birthday a get a job and I started to buying stuff more and more I want to go back to minimalism I just I can't I love my stuff😭 I don't have alot of crazy stuff because I remember everything I own but it's definitely not minimalist …I think I'm mediocre ☺

  64. Godsmasterpiece1993 says:

    Yes. I’m learning that in my 20s. As a teen I would get a bunch of cheap things. They didn’t last and couldn’t wear all of them. Lol.
    Quality over quantity!
    It applies to everything….. color pencils to electronics. I don’t know. Lol.
    I’m not Minimalist, but it’s helpful.
    Awesome video! In my future, I’m making a dramatic move from one side of the world to another.

  65. itsLady dia says:

    Love your videos 💕 I just started my YouTube channel you are all welcome❤❤

  66. Di Bn says:

    I prefer this life style…love it as it gives more confidence.. .God..i just forget that I'm good in Painting ..

  67. Vanessa martinez says:

    This came at the perfect time. Thank you.

  68. Nazir Life101 says:

    Possessions truly DO NOT make us Happy, they are BURDENS

  69. Eliz White says:

    Many pioneer women had only 2 or 3 dresses, one of them being their Sunday best dress for church. So, I don't consider myself a minimalist since I own and wear more than one dress all week and the same 'Sunday best' dress every Sunday. 🙂 But both my husband and I have 'down-sized' for our empty nest condo. We both love books – real books. We have down-sized our books but there are so many books we haven't read yet. . . I like to own 'real' books, (rather than borrowing books from the library or reading books on a tablet or cell phone or digital whatever) so I can highlight, underline, dog ear, bend the cover back, write my own ideas in the margins and not have to worry about spilling my tea on my book. Minimalism or down-sizing is indeed a personal choice of home lifestyle.

  70. Daisy Woods says:

    I used to be obsessed with minimalism but now I just stay organised and love that I have more clothes.. I found the middle ground. Went shopping today and found two perfect black dresses. So happy! I don’t have clothes that I don’t wear. They are nearly all black lol I feel less stress when I no I have enough clothes and I have a few double ups cause I love them so much I wanted two.

  71. Leto85 says:

    Hm, it must be amazing to be able to travel then and havd those experiences.
    Since I can't I think I just better distract myself with material stuff, but not too many. Sort of minimalism.

  72. Novega Graffitarini says:

    saw you visited Indonesia! <3]

  73. Salindri Ayd says:

    Thanks for visited my country ❤

  74. Kimberly Becker says:

    I really appreciated your explanation of minimalism; How it's different for everyone. I am slowly letting go of things that were inherited, that don't bring me that spark and that my children do not connect with or wish to have. I especially enjoyed your sharing the feelings of your collection of food props and how having those serve a purpose & spark joy, its not about the amount of them. I found your videos today & look forward to listening to more. Thank you

  75. sun shin says:

    ..might look more then a sort of new stylismus.., ..isnt Minimalismus more regarding to inprint.., environmental, like size of property and therewith the amount of other expensises etc used… ,,thinking..

  76. disha shah says:

    Can you do your makeup routine…u look so fresh in every video

  77. Lolly Pop says:

    I agree with you on many points especially about everything having a place. Quality over quantity is much more sustainable for me I would rather spend more money on something that is going to last for 10-20 years than to buy something that will only last 1-2. I’ve become more aware of what I bring into the house if I can’t find a place for it then i will choose not to buy. I think it’s changing your mindset really… instead of constantly buying items and just putting them anywhere I’ve found a space then I will look for a suitable item for that space. I like to donate anything I no longer need to charities but ultimately it is about trying to use everything really. We are all learning and it’s nice to see other people’s tips and ideas. ❤️

  78. SoundsOfSushi says:

    I try to live a minimalist lifestyle but my roommates don’t. They see having material objects as a status symbol.

  79. Bluegrass Lady says:

    Enjoyed this vid. Please work on the glottal fry. It is only happens at the end of a sentence, so you can correct this habit easily. Hey, I don't want to have to go to captions. Thanks

  80. RADEK says:

    what a beautiful face! FUCK!

  81. Will Alvarez says:

    Please go back in the Philippines 🥰

  82. Raggo says:

    Thanks for the great video! I'm in the process of going the minimalist route, and I have 9 guitars, 2 basses and a music studio, kilos of cables and 6 guitar-amplifiers as well. And the list goes on… This has been the hardest thing about considering a minimalist lifestyle for me. So to see your video and hear your sound and well balanced view on minimalism was a true blessing! When you told about the food photography props, I was thinking, YES! 🙂

  83. Quo Soon says:

    I am interested in living that way before I knew it's called "minimalism" 😊

  84. SODA STORY says:

    Im a minimalist also

  85. YR says:

    I would like to know if there's a recipe for the salad you prepared during this video! Marie Kondo makes me think of a lot of animes my daughter watched when she was little, inanimate objects having a life of their own and thanking a home or an item you have used before you pass it on, seems right out of a Miyazaki movie. I tried to cut down on stuff I own but it's probably a year later and I am still not where I want to be. Baby steps. I wish I had some help from friends or family to come over and help me with the process but I don't.

  86. Corno di Bassetto says:

    I had three pieces of limestone on my desk, but I was terrified to find that they required to be dusted daily, when the furniture of my mind was all undusted still, and threw them out the window in disgust. HENRY DAVID THOREAU

  87. Mona Ru says:

    Oh I love your videos literally sooo much! Thank you for the motivation!

  88. Lakshmi Muralidharan says:

    Thank you! I bless you with pure love and light!

  89. inevitablewanderer says:

    Where can I buy your clothes organizer? Love it!

  90. George Andrews says:

    Possessions are anchors.

  91. tisha k says:

    Negative promises,🙁

  92. Anneke Mahabeer says:

    O my word you are a beautiful lady! Tx for the awesome tips Love from SA

  93. Anneke Mahabeer says:

    I cant stop buying clothes 😭😭😭😭

  94. Techstacity says:

    Hi Pick Up Limes? This video sparks joy, to me. It's been a lotwhile since I got serious with minimalism. This is def one of the best and understandable video and also easy to follow along.

  95. Mrs. Kathleen Aragon says:

    Well said! I love it how you explained and express the difference of being frugal and minamilisim. And buying quality things that would last long against buying cheap ones but it will onl last for a couple of months. Maybe if I have money to spare why not buy stuff with quality. I think some people are confuse about that part. Anyway, new sub here and a thumbs up. 👍

  96. Pratyusha Dutta says:

    I love to watch your food photography prop collection (plates, bowls, cups, etc). They are so unique and beautiful and the color selection from various blues to teals is really refreshing to watch. I share the same passion for collecting and using beautiful pieces of china/glassware. It would be great if you can make a video showing your collection in the future.
    Love, Pratyusha

  97. Angel Robertson says:

    Saying thank you to objects I understand because I said "hello house" when I moved into my first place lol also I always give things away to someone else.

  98. rush end says:

    have you come to Bali ?

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