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3 Books That Will Dramatically Improve Your Life | Wednesday Checkup

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– I decided that I wanna tell you guys about some of my favorite audio
books that I’ve listened to since the beginning of this year. Are you ready? (imitates beeping) (mellow music) As you may know from watching my other
book recommendation video or my productivity video, I
love listening to audio books. It’s more time efficient for me, and for some reason, I concentrate better when I’m doing another task on autopilot. So if I’m walking somewhere,
I’m jogging, I’m driving, I can really pay attention
to an audio book and zone in. Don’t ask me why. It just works. Before we start, we have to
give a huge thank you to Audible for sponsoring us again on this video. And they have a great offer,
if you want to try Audible, where you get one audio book for free plus two Audible originals
when you sign up. All you have to do is visit
Audible.com/DoctorMike. Remember, Doctor is D-O-C-T-O-R Mike, or you can text 500500, the
code Doctor Mike as well, D-O-C-T-O-R M-I-K-E. Are you ready? There, are you ready? Uh, no one’s there. I guess we’re ready. The first book I wanna talk to you about is called “Feeling Good” by Dr. David Burns, M.D. The gold standard of treatment
for depression, anxiety, if you’re to visit a doctor, is called Cognitive Behavior Therapy. Now it sounds like a mouthful,
but it’s really not so bad. It’s basically when you take your thoughts that are irrational or dysfunctional or not based concretely on reality and then you substitute rational
thoughts in their place. It’s thoughts that guide your feelings, not feelings that guide your thoughts. We as humans don’t really
have control of our feelings. If you’re feeling depressed,
and someone comes up to you and says, “Hey, just snap
out of it,” that’s rude. But if they approach you and they say, “Well, why are you feeling depressed?” “What thoughts are you having?” And then they try and help you understand that those thoughts are irrational, that’s essentially what CBT is. It’s important to know that
you don’t have to be suffering with depression or
generalized anxiety disorder in order to benefit
from reading this book. Everyone in this world, every
human alike, will benefit from knowing about Cognitive
Behavioral Therapy. It’s a rational, reasonable way
to think about your problems so that, not that you don’t get
sad when you have a problem. That’s normal. That’s part of human existence. But just so that sadness
doesn’t bring you to such depths where you can’t function. I wanna share with you also that I, when going through
a tough time, will go back and read “Feeling Good,”
because it’s one of those books that, yes, there’s
information in there that, once you learn it, you know it. But it’s a skill that needs to be consistently sharpened and updated. “Mike, you always look happy. “You look balanced. “How are you involved in so many things?” It’s because I’m
constantly doing this form of CBT on myself. Now that doesn’t mean everyone’s
gonna be capable of this, and that’s why I encourage anyone. If you’re suffering with
depression, anxiety, or you’re even questioning if you have it, go talk to your primary care doctor. Talk to a mental health professional. There’s nothing wrong with it. We all have times where we get stuck. That’s part of life, and
sometimes we need help. That’s totally fine. And I tell you this from a lot of personal and professional experience. When you get through that struggle, even if you’ve had help or
you’ve done it on your own, with a book, whatever, you’re gonna feel not only so much better, but you’re gonna be more prepared to help others along the way. And that’s truly a rewarding feeling. The second audio book
I wanna tell you about is called “Coddling of the American Mind” by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt. Now this is a very thought-provoking book on how the young American
minds are being hurt by good intentions. Some of the most
important things discussed in this book is the
rise of over-parenting. It’s that style of parenting where you have basically
like helicopter parents, where they’re always
around their children. They never want them to get hurt. They never want them to fail or feel sad, and that’s having detrimental effects on children’s mental
health as they grow up. Haidt and Lukianoff
postulate that the increases of anxiety and depression
that we’re seeing in the youth are as a result
of, at least partially, by this parenting style. The second thing that they talk about is how nuance is lost in conversation and how diversity of ideas
is lost on college campuses. And I totally agree with that. I think when we talk about diversity, we should absolutely be talking about gender, sex, religion, race, but we also need to have
a diversity of ideologies. And when we lose that, we
actually become less smart. Because if we’re never challenged, if no one ever gives us a new
thought even to argue against, we can become better. That’s why if you look at athletes, when they compete against
someone at a very high level, there’s a huge level of respect. Because that person is making them better. Rivals make each other better. One thing that stuck with
me from reading this book is how there’s so much lost free play when it comes to kids nowadays. And I see this even within my nephews. Everything is so incredibly
structured and monitored. They never have the time to
just be alone and play together and argue and fight and
learn how to solve problems and actually develop their social fabric. I know it sounds funny to say that free play could be that
important, but it really is. And I think Haidt and
Lukianoff do a great job in breaking that down, explaining and giving concrete examples of what’s going on in
schools, with parents, within society, politics, and how that all factors in
to the developing young mind. Totally recommend this book. And the most exciting
part about all of this is in a couple of months, Jonathan
Haidt is gonna be coming on this channel for an interview. I can’t wait, and I hope
you guys are excited, too. The third audio book
I wanna tell you about is called “Thinking in
Bets” by Annie Duke. She’s a professional poker player. I remember even watching her play poker when I was growing up. I used to play poker
semi-professionally back in the day. I had a group of friends
that I would play poker with, and it’s funny, because
all of our conversations, whether they were about school and tests, girls and guy friends, everything
we related back to poker. And what this book is, is
all about how you can think about making decisions in
life with limited information and take some cues and tips from players that are very good at poker. What Annie Duke does well in this book is that she equates making
difficult decisions in real life to poker hands, and it encourages folks when they think about their decision, to think about it as a bet. A bet has consequences. You can win; you can lose. There’s things that can happen in between. The most important thing that
this book is gonna give you is it’s gonna make you
a better decision maker. It’s gonna shift you away from certainty, where it’s either gonna be a yes or no, to uncertainty, which is what life is. There’s a level of luck involved. There’s things that you’re
not gonna be able to plan for. Things that are outside of your control. And what Annie Duke does is she lays out all these strategies that we can use to become
better decision makers, so that we can become more
analytical in our judgment so that we can have more
favorable outcomes in the future. This book covers bias really well. In fact, Annie Duke actually takes from a handful of psychology literature and incorporates that
into her own thinking, into her own process
for making a decision. That’s why she’s become this incredibly successful
business consultant. This is by no means an exhaustive list of audio book that are great. These are just some of my favorites that I’ve read since the
beginning of this year, and I wanna do this a
little bit more often. When there’s nothing going on in the news, medically speaking, I wanna jump in and tell you about interesting reads or listens (laughs) that
I’m going through to share. Because not only do I
benefit from listening to these audio book, but you can, as well. Remember, visit Audible.com/DoctorMike, D-O-C-T-O-R M-I-K-E, or text the number 500500,
the code Doctor Mike, again D-O-C-T-O-R M-I-K-E, to get one free audio book
and two Audible originals. As always, stay happy and healthy.

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100 thoughts on “3 Books That Will Dramatically Improve Your Life | Wednesday Checkup”

  1. erin fifield says:

    Holy Jo, Dr. Mike! Thank you so much. Book 1 & 2 are my every day Life and book 3 is what I may need. CBT is how my brain works before I knew what CBT was. The good thing is if you have a brain that does a lot of thinking and gets carried away you can give it good things to go off the rails with, like a little "let's do proactive work with those feelings, babe." Keep sharing your reading recommendations please. It is good medicine! 🏞️

  2. Fahima Begum says:

    Hey Dr Mike, I love you and frankly, your handsome face is the least interesting thing about you!

  3. Rain Blooms says:

    Thanks for the recommendations. I'll have to check them out! <3

  4. Vanessa Lazcon says:

    How is he a doctor if all he does is film videos lol he’s an acting doctor

  5. geekelly000 says:

    Dr Mike, what’s your take on biokinesis?

  6. Zach Vann says:

    Thanks for the suggestions. As someone else mentioned below, I would also recommend Factfulness by Hans Rosling. 10/10. Thinking critically and not reactively is the chest compressions society needs.

  7. Ella Hughes says:

    The laws of medicine by Dr. Siddhartha Mukerjhee is AMAZING. It’s not even really laws of medicine, it’s laws of life. It gives you a new perspective. Read it, please!!!

  8. Sharon Peckham says:

    You should read "Walking Your Blues Away" by Thom Hartmann. It's a quick, easy read that has some interesting ideas stemming from the thoughts behind EMDR. Very interesting.

  9. Tolkiendil says:

    Doctor Mike, love you, but the profile photo of your channel makes me cringe

  10. KayBienne Rosado says:

    Your first book reminds me of the happiness trap. You should read that too!

  11. Marko Kraljevic says:

    Dear Doctor Mike,

    could you please give your opinion on astral projection? Is it real? Do you do it?

    Kind regards, a huge fan

  12. Fenna Sengers says:

    I would like to see you go bouldering/climbing. Would be fun!

  13. Karoll Arredondo says:

    Hello Dr. Mike, I am a Colombian subscriber who has found great information and laughs watching your videos, thank you for your fantastic work!! I think my husband and I will subscribe using the link you provided we are both avid readers and passionate learners… Just one last thought… I've read many books that have changed my mindset, therefore my actions and reactions, but the source of wisdom, life, joy and peace that can be just be found in the Bible has no measure nor can't be compared… That's a book we all need to read before we have to face dead…

  14. Stefanie Lvovsky says:

    Can you roccomend some medical related books to read?

  15. Kim Ngan Nguyen says:

    Love audiobooks/ebooks a great thing especially since I have a vision diary keep my love for reading alive

  16. Parie Rivers says:

    Nobody:
    Doctor Mike: bEeWoOp

  17. Mark Pedida says:

    Dr mike do you take whey protein or other supplements?

  18. Saschia Dybdahl says:

    I have a question for your next comments video!!
    A few days a week I get 10-30 second “headaches” in different specific spots of my head throughout the day. And then it’s gone. It will happen a few times that day. What the heck is going on?!

  19. Hwa-Jin Kwak says:

    “Rivals make each other better” wow… when we think of rivals, we think of people that we hate with our guts, wanting nothing to do woth them. But, if you think about it, we would not be who we are without their presence…

  20. Kat says:

    Can you please do a video about cbd and also I wanna hear your thoughts on food combining

  21. Bears and Beats says:

    You know I never get around to audiobooks anymore with the invention of beautiful YouTube channels like yours but I’m genuinely excited for these.

    Thanks 😀

  22. LetYourLiteShine17 says:

    Can you do a video on stoke awareness please? (also btw I'm aware that light is LIGHT, not LITE)

  23. thida saensong says:

    I like to watching you to practice my English!!!!!! And for more knowledge thank you

  24. Joy To The World says:

    This is great, thanks…totally agree re kids and free play. Kids def need free time and also they need to be told no sometimes, no is a healthy boundary word. When I worked at a preschool, some idiot high up, decided we weren’t allowed to say no to kids, that was twenty years ago and I can see how that’s affected kids today. I also think parents want their kids to be seen as gifted, so they compete and lots of parents do their kids assignments, omg, stop it with the my kid is so gifted and special competition already and just let them play, climb trees and get muddy 🙏🏻

  25. Friendly Pedant says:

    I love Audible! It makes driving in L.A. traffic much better!

  26. Patrik Svensson says:

    Here's a really heavy tip for a read: Factfulness by Hans Rosling. It is a serious and much needed game changer in the ways we view the world.

  27. Margaret Jacobs says:

    Thank you for all the helpful information that you've passed along with your channel! I was wondering if you have any advice for dealing with rheumatoid arthritis in the long-term. I was just diagnosed; I'm 22, and I want to know if you have any advice or tips to help me learn to live with this.

  28. Samurai ANI says:

    Hello Dr. Mike, I am a regular viewer of your channel. Your videos are very good, inspiring, helpful, educational. I have one question though,being a doctor yourself why do you show probably non-human ECG in your intro!!??

  29. Mishel Davidoff says:

    Please, be my doctor!

  30. jayce k396 says:

    DUDE I totally relate to the fact that multitasking while listening to audiobooks is more better. i have listened audiobooks from when i was 7 so 8 years now, and I totally know what your talking about

  31. Tinker belch says:

    I have been picking up and putting down the book Feeling Good every time I go to my local bookstore. I am in therapy, my therapist is using CBT on me every two weeks to go through everything that is in my brain that makes me the ball of depression and anxiety that I am, more manageable. I think I'll go ahead and pick up that book, books have always been my "safe space" and my therapist is all about me looking into using said books to help with the CBT we are already doing to keep it up at home. So thanks Dr. Mike, for helping me choose to go ahead and read it.

  32. Loramend says:

    Hi Dr Mike! I follow you since the beginning of your era. I was recently diagnosed with Cushing syndrome, basically my cortisol levels are too high and on a permanent /long-time basis. At the beginning when I told my obgyn that I thought I had some hormonal issue because I weight 1kg less only than I weighted right before giving birth almost 9 months ago (despite following their meal plan and being extra careful). When she got the blood results she said it look like I have diabetes, she sent me to an endocrinologist who explained you can't diagnose diabetes with a glucose test in one day, it has to be repeated to get an idea of how it changes over time. She did a ton of blood work and while waiting for results she asked me to lift my shirt to say "aha, your stretch marks are purple, not white, this is just another little sign of issues with your cortisol levels".
    I was told that high cortisol levels impact everything, being the stress hormone it impacts weight, hair, sweat, emotional balance, acne, fertility, glucose levels, fertility… and as result, it could impact my nervous system.

    The thing is that I explained to my endocrinologist that the most normal / balanced or me that I have ever felt was actually while I was doing IVF treatment, I said many times that having PCOS and now that we know, cortisol issues, I feel like under those hormones injected during IVF I reached my normal levels and that is why it was also super easy and fast to get pregnant via IVF.

    When it comes to people with high cortisol levels as mine, besides changes in the type of exercises, eating habits, including meditation …do you also recommend taking some drastic decisions that we believe are impacting our stress levels? i.e. I live in Shanghai with another 25m people, I always found this place to be too much for me. At the same time, I have been saying for a while that I want to leave my corporate job despite all the benefits it brings me and that I know I will soon be offered again a promotion, and work for myself, control my schedules and my own projects. I feel like its all in one…

  33. Katie Boyum says:

    Can you do another video with medical books you recommend? Like maybe books you read in school or books about diseases, and viruses or how the body works? I'd love some recommendations for that!

  34. Melanie Moore says:

    Love this. ♥️

  35. DON SHAMILOV says:

    Huge fan of Jonathan Haidt! I read "The Coddling of the American Mind" last year, and as a college student, found everything that was written to be so accurate and representative of our current climate on college campus. Very excited to hear you speak with Haidt!

  36. bensch rose says:

    hm… I tried to listen to this vid on autopilot while doing other stuff.
    I think I might have to watch it again. Actively, this time xD

  37. Hannah H says:

    1:02 did anyone else feel like they were watching Mickey Mouse?

  38. cutecheerfreak1 says:

    The coddling of the American mind sounds very interesting, but at least my personal experience at my university had a lot of diversity of ideas, worth noting however I had to take a lot of theory courses and I wonder if some students just aren’t taught properly how to see different ideologies, when they are indeed present.

  39. SeaLuvsHorsees 06 says:

    Okay I find it kind of crazy bc the CBT that you were talking about in the first book… I've been doing that for quite a while now and I really didn't know why. I just automatically tried to figure out why I (or my friends) felt depressed instead of just telling them to let it go.

  40. MissfireJack says:

    Dr Mike: "Talk to someone!"
    Me: Nah. I'm okay.
    Also me: 😭😭😭

  41. 19890 16 says:

    I ❤️ doctor Mike!😱😅

  42. demola azeez says:

    More of this book recommendations please

  43. malizooski1 says:

    Have you ever read House of God?

  44. Anna Powell says:

    Thank you for including a female author in your list.

  45. Melissa Eyre says:

    How do you deal with mental health within health care

  46. E. K. says:

    Yay! I love book recs. You should have a doctor Mike reading club and have a book of the month that your fans can read with you and than do a live discussion on YouTube or insta stories. (I expect royalties for this incredible idea.) (I’m joking 🙃. I only expect heaps of praise and adoration.)

  47. Cyanide says:

    You know books are always better on paper,

  48. Amy Peterson says:

    Dr. Mike, I’m very impressed by how similar our book interests are! Please continue with these videos!

  49. HANNAH RANDOLPH says:

    Happiness hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt is my all time favorite book! I’m so excited to hear he’ll be on the show soon ❤️❤️❤️

  50. Nancy Mopipi says:

    I think it would be very interesting to have a conversation with you one day. There's a lot I could learn from you.

  51. *Nana Ortiz* says:

    You should do more videos with your nephews, just saying.

  52. Ashwini K says:

    you could probably just recite ABCD and i would i guess listen to it with same interest! 😀

  53. Olawunmi Oladunjoye says:

    It’s kind of disappointing to me as an avid reader that this video doesn’t have as many views as the many others. I don’t read a lot of non-fiction books and I’ve been meaning to this year. A series like this would be awesome and I hope he continues it!

    I’m going to check the first two out in paperback because audiobooks aren’t really my thing. Thank you so much for the recommendations!

  54. Andy Way says:

    I really loved this video. I hope you make more recommendations in the future. 😀

  55. Chinmayee Surve says:

    That Ranveer singh gif at 0:36 killed me 😂😂😂

  56. Madbanana //M.B. says:

    I only have one book that I need to improve my life!
    “How to tie a Noose”

  57. WaffleAssassin says:

    I really appreciate your advice 👌

  58. BurningPillow says:

    tell 'em that it's human nature

  59. Viki Quigg says:

    As a psychologist, I can say CBT is very moving and can be self helpish if you can't afford a therapist. Seeing a psychologist will make it more effective as they can reflect back and question what you say, also if you get stuck they can help. However, anything is better than nothing and you can definitely do some on your own. You do really have to work at it though, like you said. Thanks for recommending a psych based book, I haven't actually read it but you are a critical thinker so I'd say it's mostly verified.

  60. The Kat says:

    Audio books, chuckle. I cant afford them but I just happened to be listening to yr video while washing dishes. Works great. ☺

  61. Light Moua says:

    How can I get these books without my parents giving me the weirdest looks like why tf r u getting these xD

  62. ThGreatFandango says:

    Side note: Digging that shirt & tie!

  63. LouLae says:

    'If you're depressed, asked yourself why' NO MIKE NOOOOO
    Sorry, I love you, but please never ask a depressed person why they're depressed. While there may be reasons, those aren't always clear and this is a question that often makes depressed people feel more guilty than they already feel, and more helpless and powerless than they felt. I think it's better to ask: Is there anything that could have made you feel that way?/ did anything change in the last few weeks that made you feel worse?
    I'm a patient with recurring depressive episodes, also a student of psychology and friend to many people with depression who agree with me.

  64. per min says:

    Me: sees a cross on Doctor Mike's background
    Me: makes a Crusade towards Mike's place

  65. Melissa Ann says:

    I have a two questions for you. 1) how do you go about finding a good primary care physician? Getting a list from my insurance company has not been helpful. Sometimes, the insurance doesn’t even know they don’t have an agreement with the doctors they give me information for. 2) How do you start to kick a sugar habit? I have started adding healthy things in my diet but have really struggled kicking the bad things. Thank you so much for putting the time that you do into your channel!

  66. YUVAN NEKO says:

    0:07 😍

  67. Brandi Smith says:

    Love this video! Thanks for the recommendations!

  68. Zhenyu Dong says:

    I love the book Feeling Good. It has helped me so much in changing my distorted thinking. I love your energy and passion!

  69. Sammyboy123 says:

    you should read emotional intelligence

  70. Γιώτα Κ says:

    Why don't you fly to Greece to read me these books?🤣

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  72. Renee Sanchez says:

    anyone else think of micky mouse when he was spelling doctor mike

  73. Niklaus Silva says:

    best book for your life? the Bible my friends God bless.

  74. Michael Girodat says:

    3 books that changed my life, 1 fiction, 2 non-fiction: The Eye of the World by Robert Jordan, Mapping the Mind by Rita Carter, and The Cell: Evolution of the First Organism by Joseph Panno.

  75. Carbon Feetprint says:

    More of this please!

  76. Samuel Stinson says:

    As an addict in recovery who also works in drug/alcohol rehabilitation, I recommend Feeling Good to so many people. Amazing book and tool for mental health. Love your videos!!

  77. Rahul Mulani says:

    could you please make a video explaining more about DMT and the chemical reaction that happens in your brain when consumed

  78. Stephanie Guevara says:

    YESS ! I enjoy reading so much so exited !

  79. Sanskriti Barua says:

    Your book choice is so damn boring! 😪😴

  80. cr angye says:

    Mike, give us more books

  81. Melissa Salazar says:

    Librarian here! I love audiobooks, especially on long drives. I’ll have to put these books on my list.

  82. CandiBass says:

    I saw my PCP & a mental health professional because I felt mentally unwell (still am) but I became more suicidal but neither listened. They gave me medication that affected me badly which affects how I feel about doctors and going to the doctor, ironically I wanted to be a nurse up until recently.

  83. Dani Jimenez says:

    damn daddy

  84. Chandini Rao says:

    hi..nice video there. I just want to ask you this question which I'd already asked you before but didn't get a reply. you'd spoken about verbal judo in one of your videos on how to deal with harsh criticism.. could you please recommend any book that you know on that topic… please?

  85. Zetsuke4 says:

    waiting on that interview!

  86. Chimchim Jamjam says:

    someone one's told me to try to think rationally when I'm feeling anxious (social anxiety) i tried a lot for a while but it didn't work out 😕

  87. vintage daisy23 says:

    "Be-wooop." Can someone please make this into a rap? Lol

  88. Minh Nguyen says:

    When you subtly toss in , what are now libertarian and conservative viewpoints into a video and people don't realize it… hehehehehe

  89. Jenn Truu says:

    Dr. Mike please watch and react to Grey’s Anatomy Seasons 6 Episode 6 “I Saw What I Saw” and see if you can spot the big mistake! 🖤🧡🖤🖤💛🖤💙❤️🖤

  90. Oofinator 3000 says:

    144 dislikes
    Maybe it’s because they saw Dr. Mike’s face at that quality but wanted to see it in 4K!

  91. Faith R. says:

    As a psychotherapist who works with kids, I completely agree with your statements about kids being overly structured which might cause later mental health. Interestingly many of these kids are extremely anxious and depressed because of the lack of down time. Well said, doc. Love the mental health conversations.

  92. DJ speedywolf says:

    👋🙂💖💖💖

  93. LT T says:

    These book recommendations have me really intrigued. I will start with the third one, very interesting. Thank you Dr. Mike. 🙌

  94. Peter says:

    Thoughts coming first and creating the feelings as reactions to them is just not 100% true. I have had an annoying amount of therapy and most commonly there is no thought that is kicking me down, it's just my mood and it isn't so simple as, i'm thinking something like "I'm dumbest guy ever" then thinking "Oh no i'm not" then all is perfect. I wish it was always like that but I find that more often than not, I feel distinct misery and then try to find a thought that caused it to no avail.

  95. Blue H says:

    Video idea : books every medical /pre med student should read

  96. Хомяк Великий says:

    – Why aren you always so happy?
    – Because I'm constantly doing cbt on myself.
    Wow what a confession, if you know what I mean 😏

  97. Jennie J. says:

    Bring a cute chimp on your tube.

  98. candiibar says:

    Thanks Dr Mike…Thinking In Bets sounds like just the book I need..I've just purchased it on audible 😊

  99. Rosanne Lui says:

    Please do more book recommendations

  100. سامر احمد says:

    Very Good

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